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		<title>Not one square inch!</title>
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		<category><![CDATA[Abraham Kuyper]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Recently I’ve become acquainted with (and intrigued by) the thought and work of Abraham Kuyper, a Dutch theologian who served as prime minister of the Netherlands a hundred years ago. I’d heard (and instantly loved) his most famous quote before I ever knew much about him: There is not one square inch of the entire [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Recently I’ve become acquainted with (and intrigued by) the thought and work of <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abraham_Kuyper" target="_blank">Abraham Kuyper</a>, a Dutch theologian who served as prime minister of the Netherlands a hundred years ago. I’d heard (and instantly loved) his <a href="http://www.intervarsity.org/gfm/faculty/resource/not-one-square-inch" target="_blank">most famous quote</a> before I ever knew much about him:</p>
<blockquote><p><strong>There is not one square inch of the entire creation about which Jesus Christ does not cry out,  “This is mine! This belongs to me!”</strong></p></blockquote>
<p>Regrettably, I must confess that I haven’t yet read any actual books by Kuyper himself, though the recently released English translation of <em><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Wisdom-Wonder-Common-Grace-Science/dp/1937498905" target="_blank">Wisdom &amp; Wonder: Common Grace in Science &amp; Art</a></em> (Christian's Library Press) will soon remedy that. Thus far my introduction to Kuyper has come through a couple of books by <a href="http://www.netbloghost.com/mouw/" target="_blank">Richard Mouw</a>, recommended to me by <a href="https://twitter.com/#!/gideonstrauss" target="_blank">Gideon Strauss</a>. The first, which <a href="http://tjhoiland.com/wordpress/2012/01/he-shines-in-all-thats-fair/" target="_blank">I wrote about in January</a>, is a more general book on common grace theology, rooted in Kuyper’s thinking and published a decade ago.</p>
<p><a href="http://tjhoiland.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2012/02/abraham-kuyper.jpg"><img class="alignright size-medium wp-image-3359" title="abraham-kuyper" src="http://tjhoiland.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2012/02/abraham-kuyper-200x300.jpg" alt="" width="200" height="300" /></a>The other is a new book called <em><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Abraham-Kuyper-Short-Personal-Introduction/dp/0802866034/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1328293839&amp;sr=8-1" target="_blank">Abraham Kuyper: A Short and Personal Introduction</a> </em>(Eerdmans). It really is both short and personal. The first half is an overview of Kuyper’s thought on a number of issues related to theology and culture, and the second half is a sort of appropriation of that thinking for the twenty-first century. Mouw focuses on the parts of Kuyper’s thinking that have meant the most to him and that, in his view, have the most relevance for today’s reader.</p>
<p><strong>Among the ideas Kuyper is most well known for is what is called <em>sphere sovereignty</em>.</strong> In this way of thinking, culture is composed of a number of distinct spheres. A sphere, as Mouw defines it, is “an arena where interactions take place, and where some sort of authority is exercised.” So the family, church, state, business, art, and university are each spheres, and each “has its own place in God’s plan for the creation, and each is directly under the divine rule.”</p>
<p>That concept may at first seem abstract or irrelevant to some, but to me, it provides a cohesive way of viewing the world, a language for talking about it, and it hints at both the why and the how of Christian cultural engagement. In this view, God intends for the family to be a family, for the church to be the church, for a business to be a business, for the state to be the state, and so on. These different spheres have different purposes and limitations, and it’s important to recognize both. And it’s important to recognize that in the Christian view, Christ is Lord over them all. He’s not unconcerned about any sphere; no sphere is to be tossed aside.</p>
<p>This has huge implications for how Christians view faithfulness in terms of vocation and citizenship and church membership and family life and, well,<strong> faithfulness in every square inch of creation.</strong></p>
<p>Anyway, I wouldn’t say I’m ready to label myself a Kuyperian just yet, but I’m wondering if maybe David Brooks was onto something in <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2012/02/03/opinion/brooks-how-to-fight-the-man.html" target="_blank">his column on Friday</a>:</p>
<blockquote><p>For generations people have been told: Think for yourself; come up with your own independent worldview. Unless your name is Nietzsche, that’s probably a bad idea. Very few people have the genius or time to come up with a comprehensive and rigorous worldview.</p>
<p>If you go out there armed only with your own observations and sentiments, you will surely find yourself on very weak ground. You’ll lack the arguments, convictions and the coherent view of reality that you’ll need when challenged by a self-confident opposition...</p>
<p>The paradox of reform movements is that, if you want to defy authority, you probably shouldn’t think entirely for yourself. You should attach yourself to a counter-tradition and school of thought that has been developed over the centuries and that seems true.</p></blockquote>
<p><em><strong id="internal-source-marker_0.024251355323940516">What about you? Which influential thinkers or traditions have shaped how you see and live in the world? What does it look like to appropriate an old tradition for the twenty-first century?</strong></em></p>
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		<title>Sustainability in the Valley of the Sun</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 02 Feb 2012 13:00:44 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[When Andrew Ross first came to the Phoenix, he was interested in learning what local artists were doing to revitalize downtown, a desert city with an urban core that, to many urbanists, leaves much to be desired. No city exists in a vacuum, however, and Ross soon came to the conclusion that to understand Phoenix [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://tjhoiland.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2012/02/birdonfire2.jpg"><img class="alignright size-medium wp-image-3338" title="birdonfire2" src="http://tjhoiland.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2012/02/birdonfire2-198x300.jpg" alt="" width="198" height="300" /></a>When Andrew Ross first came to the Phoenix, he was interested in learning what local artists were doing to revitalize downtown, a desert city with an urban core that, to many urbanists, leaves much to be desired. No city exists in a vacuum, however, and Ross soon came to the conclusion that to understand Phoenix he had to understand the story of the other cities and sprawling suburbs throughout the valley. It was through this research that he concluded that the Phoenix metro area — which includes nine cities with populations of 100,000 or more — was, as he puts it in the subtitle, “the world’s least sustainable city.”</p>
<p>Some may take issue with that claim, but Phoenix’s problem is evident: a sprawling population of four million and counting in a sun-scorched desert certainly poses significant sustainability challenges. Further, as Ross argues, a prevailing culture of rugged individualism and a widespread aversion to all forms of regulation have only exacerbated the sustainability challenges.</p>
<p>As a relative newcomer to Phoenix, I was particularly interested to learn what is being done to make Phoenix more sustainable, and what obstacles stand in the way. According to the book, the obstacles have for the most part gotten the upper hand. But with a heightened awareness of the need for more sustainable living across the country and around the world, Ross believes that Phoenix can point the way to the future, for better or worse...</p>
<p><em><strong>Read my <a href="http://erb.kingdomnow.org/bird-on-fire-andrew-ross-feature-review" target="_blank">full review</a> of </strong></em><strong>Bird on Fire: Lessons from the World's Least Sustainable City</strong><em><strong> (Oxford University Press) at <a href="http://erb.kingdomnow.org/bird-on-fire-andrew-ross-feature-review" target="_blank">Englewood Review of Books</a>.</strong></em></p>
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		<title>My review of Paul Farmer&#8217;s &#8220;Haiti After The Earthquake&#8221; for PRISM Magazine</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 24 Jan 2012 13:00:20 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Like many in the field of international relief and development, January 12, 2010 is a date I will not soon forget. That's of course when that devastating earthquake struck Haiti. The news from Haiti has been sobering these past two years, but good, dedicated people -- Haitian and otherwise -- continue to help Haiti build [...]]]></description>
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<p>Like many in the field of international relief and development, January 12, 2010 is a date I will not soon forget. That's of course when that devastating earthquake struck Haiti.</p>
<p><a href="http://tjhoiland.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/4e1ddc23af35c.preview-300.jpg"><img class="alignright  wp-image-3262" title="4e1ddc23af35c.preview-300" src="http://tjhoiland.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/4e1ddc23af35c.preview-300-214x300.jpg" alt="" width="171" height="240" /></a>The news from Haiti has been sobering these past two years, but good, dedicated people -- Haitian and otherwise -- continue to help Haiti build back better. It’s been a learning experience for a lot of us, and I know we’ll hold on to what we’ve learned for a long time.</p>
<p>One person who has much to teach us about Haiti is <a href="http://ghsm.hms.harvard.edu/people/faculty/farmer/" target="_blank">Dr. Paul Farmer</a>, a medical doctor and anthropologist who has split his time over the past few decades between pioneering community health initiatives in rural Haiti and teaching at Harvard Medical School in Boston. He is also the founding director of <a href="http://www.pih.org/" target="_blank">Partners in Health</a> and has written numerous books.</p>
<p>Because of all this, I’m grateful for Dr. Paul Farmer’s latest book, <em>Haiti After The Earthquake </em>(PublicAffairs)<em>. </em>I read it last fall, and I’m pleased to say my review appears in the new issue of <a href="http://www.evangelicalsforsocialaction.org/page.aspx?pid=409" target="_blank"><em>PRISM</em> magazine</a>, and for now you can preview the new issue below. My review is on pp. 43-4 (pp. 45-6 using Issuu).</p>
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<p>I'd encourage you to read the rest of the great content in the magazine as well, and consider <a href="http://www.evangelicalsforsocialaction.org/page.aspx?pid=310" target="_blank">subscribing</a>. I'm a regular contributor (see the rest of my stuff <a href="http://tjhoiland.com/wordpress/writing/" target="_blank">here</a>), and as a little FYI, my next piece is slated to be the May/June cover story, focusing on farmworkers here in the US and the work of the <a href="http://www.ciw-online.org/" target="_blank">Coalition of Immokalee Workers</a>.</p>
<p><em>[Photo credit: <a href="http://cdn.thedailybeast.com/content/dailybeast/articles/2011/08/07/paul-farmer-on-his-new-book-haiti-after-the-earthquake.img.594.396.1312747341182.jpg" target="_blank">The Daily Beast</a>]</em></p>
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		<title>Wilderness, grace and the journey to the common good</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 19 Jan 2012 13:00:07 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Seeking the common good is something that most Christians, at least in theory, consider integral to the faith. But what does it actually look like? Where do we find inspiration or instruction for the journey? And where will the journey take us?These are the questions Walter Brueggemann explores in Journey to the Common Good (Westminster John [...]]]></description>
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<p>Seeking the common good is something that most Christians, at least in theory, consider integral to the faith. But what does it actually look like? Where do we find inspiration or instruction for the journey? And where will the journey take us?These are the questions Walter Brueggemann explores in <em><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Journey-Common-Good-Walter-Brueggemann/dp/0664235166/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1326951584&amp;sr=8-1" target="_blank">Journey to the Common Good</a> </em>(Westminster John Knox). As a world-renowned Old Testament scholar, he sets out to locate the answers in three places:</p>
<ol>
<li>Exodus, which sheds light on the journey from anxiety to neighborliness;</li>
<li>Jeremiah, an invitation to choose life over death; and</li>
<li>Isaiah, which helps us move from loss to restoration.</li>
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<p>I won’t attempt to do justice to his arguments here, but each of the three is an important way of understanding the journey to the common good.</p>
<p>I found the section on the Exodus particularly meaningful. In the Exodus, we see how <strong>those living lives dominated by anxiety and scarcity aren’t likely to seek the common good; they’re going to be too busy simply trying to survive</strong>. After God uses Moses to lead his people out of “the anxiety system” of Egypt, God miraculously provides manna (or “wonder bread,” as Brueggemann calls it), demonstrating divine generosity and abundance.</p>
<p>But as the biblical narrative makes clear, the people of God didn’t find it easy to move from the culture of scarcity to the culture of abundance overnight. That’s because having left the anxiety system of Pharaoh, they found themselves not in an ideal place of safety, security and comfort, but rather in the wilderness. Brueggemann writes:</p>
<blockquote><p>“Wilderness” is a place, in biblical rhetoric, where there are no viable life support systems. “Grace” is the occupying generosity of God that redefines the place. The wonder bread, as a gesture of divine grace, recharacterizes the wilderness that Israel now discovered to be a place of viable life, made viable by the generous inclination of YHWH.</p></blockquote>
<p>Brueggemann goes on to argue that for us today a similar “departure” is required -- if not from a literal Pharaoh, then from adherence to whatever twenty-first century anxiety systems we find ourselves in. If we buy his argument that living in a culture of anxiety and scarcity all but precludes the pursuit of the common good, then the flip side is that <strong>when we experience God’s generosity and abundance</strong> (“<a href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew%206:5-14&amp;version=ESV" target="_blank">our daily bread</a>,” you might say)<strong> and recognize it for the grace that it is, we are freed up like never before to be good neighbors and to seek the common good</strong>.</p>
<p>“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy,” <a href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=john%2010:10&amp;version=ESV" target="_blank">says Jesus</a>. “I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.”</p>
<p>The journey to the common good takes us from scarcity to abundance, and from abundance to the practice of neighborliness. The challenge for all of us, then, is to cultivate lives of neighborliness right here in the wilderness. It may not be a place entirely to our liking, but it <em>is</em> a place of viable life, “made viable by the generous inclination of YHWH.”</p>
<p><em><strong>Do we truly believe that the wilderness in which we live can be a place not of scarcity but of abundance? How does that shape our understanding of the journey to the common good?</strong></em></p>
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		<title>The Meaning of Marriage</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 18 Jan 2012 13:00:20 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[On October 31, marriage was in the news: Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphreys were getting divorced. It was a sad spectacle, and though celebrity marriages aren’t exactly known for their longevity, at 72 days this one’s brevity got people talking. "I hope everyone understands this was not an easy decision,” Kardashian said in a statement. [...]]]></description>
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<p>On October 31, marriage was in the news: Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphreys were <a href="http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/showtracker/2011/10/tvs-crazy-stupid-love-kim-kardashian-files-for-divorce-after-72-days.html" target="_blank">getting divorced</a>. It was a sad spectacle, and though celebrity marriages aren’t exactly known for their longevity, at 72 days this one’s brevity got people talking. "I hope everyone understands this was not an easy decision,” Kardashian said in a statement. “I had hoped this marriage was forever, but sometimes things don't work out as planned. We remain friends and wish each other the best."</p>
<p>Less than a week later, surrounded by our families and many of our closest friends at a little garden oasis in North Phoenix, Katie and I made audacious promises to each other: “to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part.”</p>
<p><a href="http://tjhoiland.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Meaning-of-Marriage.jpg"><img class="alignright  wp-image-3217" title="Meaning of Marriage" src="http://tjhoiland.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Meaning-of-Marriage-198x300.jpg" alt="" width="178" height="270" /></a>Today is day 73, and by God’s grace, we’re just getting started.</p>
<p>In that week between October 31 and November 6, as it happens, Timothy and Kathy Keller published their book <em><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Meaning-Marriage-Facing-Complexities-Commitment/dp/0525952470/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1326826382&amp;sr=8-1" target="_blank">The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God</a></em> (Dutton). My good friend and groomsman <a href="https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=186200101" target="_blank">Barnabas</a> gave us the book as a gift.</p>
<p>The book is remarkable in all the ways that books on relationships and marriage so often fall flat. Tim and Kathy have no patience for clichés, but instead share their wisdom rooted in three significant things: 37 years of marriage; more than 20 years of ministry in a city (NYC) and a church (<a href="http://www.redeemer.com/" target="_blank">Redeemer</a>) largely made up of single people; and last but not least, the Bible’s teachings on the meaning of marriage, and what it has to do with all of us. In the introduction, they write:</p>
<blockquote><p>It is hard to get a good perspective on marriage. We all see it through the inevitably distorted lenses of our own experience. If you came from an unusually stable home, where your parents had a great marriage, that may have “made it look easy” to you, and so when you get to your own marriage you may be shocked by how much it takes to forge a lasting relationship. On the other hand, if you have experienced a bad marriage of a divorce, either as a child or an adult, your view of marriage may be overly wary and pessimistic. You may be too expectant of relationship problems and, when they appear, be too ready to say, “Yup, here it goes,” and to give up. In other words, any kind of background experience of marriage may make you ill equipped for it yourself.</p></blockquote>
<p>That may seem like a bit of a downer, but really I think it emphasizes that none of us can assume that a good marriage just happens automatically, and neither can any of us assume that a great marriage is out of the realm of possibility. Throughout the book they show how marriage is designed to be, and indeed can be, great. As a marriage newbie, I didn’t read the book to critique it so much as to soak it in and learn from it, so I won’t dissect it point by point here. Instead, I’ll simply recommend it as what seems to me to be an honest, encouraging, well-informed and well-rounded book for all of us, single or married, old or young.</p>
<p>I particularly appreciated Keller’s interview about the book on MSNBC’s <a href="http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/32545640" target="_blank">Morning Joe</a> in November.</p>
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<p>I love how he re-frames some predictable (and, yes, leading) questions from the panel, refusing to play the culture wars blame game while also challenging the nearly universal assumption that marriage is designed primarily for our own self-fulfillment. As he writes in the book, marriage is “difficult and painful -- yet rewarding and wondrous.”</p>
<p>I'm glad I read the book so early on in marriage, and I plan to return to it again and again.</p>
<p><em><strong>For more, check out this <a href="http://www.livestream.com/penguinbooks/video?clipId=pla_dcb3291d-403b-419b-b9b7-fa5e56579dd2" target="_blank">one-hour conversation with Tim and Kathy</a>, as they discuss the themes of the book and tell stories from their own experience.</strong></em></p>
<p><em>[Photo credit: <a href="http://timothykeller.com/books/the_meaning_of_marriage/" target="_blank">TimothyKeller.com</a>]</em></p>
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