Tim Høiland
28Nov/07Off

What I Should Have Known Eight Years Ago.

Dear Seventeen-year-old Self,

1. You don't need to freak out about "God's will for your life." Do your best to ignore those who cause you to lose sleep over that. Just read 1 Thessalonians 4:3-7 and get on with it already. God's will for your life is your sanctification. When you are sanctified you love God and love people and that's all there is, really. You didn't come across Frederick Buechner until far too late in life (24!), but hold on to this quote: "The place God calls you to is where your deep gladness and the world's deep hunger meet." Narrow in on that place and don't compromise. That's God's will for your life. Picking a major in college, and picking a career, and finding a wife and everything else you'll get bogged down doing should help you love God and love people in a way that is uniquely you; but it should never be what paralyzes you.

2. Don't wait for those around you to do things, because maybe God has things for you to do that those around you cannot or will not ever do, or maybe they will only do them once you've taken that first step forward. And you don't want to miss out, so don't just wait to follow their lead. This goes for big things and small. Next year you'll whimsically decide to become a DJ on the Millersville radio station. And after a couple semesters you'll get really sick of it and will never want to be a DJ again, but that whimsical decision, like other decisions you've made and will go on to make, will be turning points. Put yourself in situations in which you experience new things. This will require initiative. You will travel. You'll need to make a habit of talking to strangers. It will even eventually have you reading a lot of books (yes, I know you never read). It might not make sense. But it is necessary if you're serious about finding your place in the world.

3. Satan is prowling. He really is. Don't give him an inch.

4. God is all-knowing, all-powerful, all-loving, and completely faithful. You're in good hands.

4. You'll wonder why you thought leaving high school was such a bad thing. Enjoy each day and love people. You'll stay in touch with those you choose to stay in touch with, and losing track of people you only sort of knew is not the end of the world.

4.5. But while we're at it... do you really want to skip your senior prom and instead go to a metal concert in a church gym??

5. Take the time to stop and stare. You live in a really big world and you have a lot to learn and laugh at and ponder and a lot to appreciate God for. Certain people will enter your life and will make that clear to you without even trying. I'll spare you the details.

6. Don't eat Taco Bell Express at the Houston Airport right before boarding the plane.

7. Right now you are numb. You'll go to a couple of funerals next year for people you know. There will be tears and snotty tissues all around. You won't cry, and that will bother you. You will eventually trace this at least in part to growing up where friends come and go and a coping mechanism is to refuse to allow anyone to get too close. Slowly you'll learn to open yourself up to feeling things. Sure, it will hurt like hell sometimes, but it is good, and healthy, and you'll never want to return to numbness.

8. There are some hard times ahead. Rather than trying to avoid painful times, search the Scriptures for the promises of God. You'll need them when the storms come. If I told you about the hard times in detail you'd do everything you could to avoid them because you hate pain, but I think they are probably necessary, and you won't do much good in a cave. On the other hand, there are some unspeakably wonderful times ahead too, and if I told you about them you'd try to orchestrate them and even if you could pull it off, it wouldn't be the same, because one of the coolest things about God is that he dazzles his children all the time with unexpected infusions of grace and mercy and goodness and love. It's really better if these things catch you off-guard.

9. I'll finish with something else Buechner says, which is pretty good advice. Remember that one of life's great mercies is that it's not given us to know the might-have-been of things.

10. Oh, and come to terms with the fact that as long as you live, you'll be building the airplane midflight.

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25Nov/07Off

Frederick Buechner Interview.

DOOR: Being an evangelist, you must have heard of the four spiritual laws?

BUECHNER: I can't say that I have.

DOOR: And you call yourself an evangelist? Bill Bright would not be happy.

BUECHNER: Who is Bill Bright?

DOOR: Seriously? You have never heard of the founder and president of Campus Crusade, an evangelical organization committed to reaching the world by 1984? An organization in the process of raising one billion dollars to reach the world for Christ?

BUECHNER: He hasn't reached me.

DOOR: Your religious books don't seem very religious, which is a compliment, by the way.

BUECHNER: Well, I've never learned to talk about the Christian faith in the accustomed way. I've talked about it the only way I can. In some ways it has created a dilemma for me as a writer, because my religious books are too colloquial and too secular for church people, yet too churchy for secular people.

DOOR: So are you primarily a writer who happens to be a minister, or a minister who happens to be a writer?

BUECHNER: People sometimes say to me, "Why did you get out of the ministry?" I find that deeply upsetting, because I don't, in any sense, think of myself as giving up the ministry. But I do think of writing as a ministry.

An excerpt from The Door interview with Frederick Buechner, by Mike Yaconelli. Read the complete interview here.

13Nov/07Off

Of Beachside Bars in Asia & the Communal Enjoyment of God.

If you’re like me and have traveled very much at all, you’ve likely stumbled upon instances in time, generally between the stubborn language barrier and the annoyance of pushy tuk tuk drivers, when all that is right in the world coalesces for just a moment, and you’re left breathless, wide-eyed, dying to know if anyone else is noticing the magic. In these moments you experience - you taste - something of perfection.

Of course, while traveling you also experience moments of aching loneliness, if you’re anything like me, because those who wander off the beaten path in life must be prepared to go it alone, perhaps for only a season, we can hope, but alone nonetheless. In these times, more than anything, more than a million dollars, all you want is to all of a sudden find yourself in the company of those you love, who also remarkably love you.

Maybe it isn’t surprising that on journeys travelers experience both magic and loneliness, but it can be perplexing to discover that these moments are often one and the same. But one and the same they are, because when you happen upon something inherently and unequivocally good, something in you demands that it be shared with those you love.

Last year in October, I went to the beach in Cambodia by myself for the weekend. By night I slept in a simple bungalow with a bed and a bare light bulb, and by day I sat in the open-air beachside bar, reading, writing, staring out at the Gulf of Thailand, sipping on a banana and coconut milkshake. As Day said hello to Dusk, who then ushered Evening into our midst, the staff at the bar set candles out on the tables and my milkshake was replaced with white wine. I sat there in the beachside bar with the seabreeze swirling lightly around, sipping on my Chardonnay - surrounded by strangers from Europe and Australia I would never talk to, who would also never talk to me, along with the Asian waiters and waitresses who had lived all their days in this lazy beach town. In this moment, all was well; all was right. And yet there was the emptiness. It was the same emptiness I had felt in other magical places in other parts of the world. If only, I kept thinking, if only. This is too good. It shouldn’t be kept to myself.

But of course you don’t need to travel to know what I mean. God in his grace is always slipping bits of goodness into the tedium of our days and the darkness of our nights, and these graces are ours for the taking, for the enjoying, if we’ll only reach out and accept them, not as rights, but as undeserved gifts. And it’s not entirely uncommon, even among otherwise self-seeking creatures like you and I, to respond to the receiving of an undeserved gift not by hoarding or devouring but in some unexplainable way by turning around and extending to others an undeserved gift of their own, and to do so with next to no rational thought and yet with all the firm resolve in the world.

I don’t think it’s an accident that God has placed us in real places to live our lives among real people, just as I don’t think it’s an accident he slipped a bit of goodness into my life on the beach that night in Sihanoukville. And I certainly don’t think it’s an accident that he has slipped bits and pieces of goodness into your life here and there, amidst the tedium and chaos and darkness and distraction and unknowns of it all, and I’m guessing that these bits of goodness in your life have in all likelihood at least occasionally been accompanied by aches of loneliness, reminders that gifts are not to be enjoyed alone.

May we heed the reminders, friends. And as we delve deeper and deeper into the mutual enjoyment of these God-given bits of goodness, may we not forget those for whom these doses of goodness might at least appear to be fewer and farther between, for whom the communal enjoyment of God’s goodness is not yet a reality.